Dad-Skills
The last post was an introduction to dad-skills. Here is a list of dad-skills and a link to each one.
A sense of belonging
- Spend One-On-One Time
- Activities with children
- Spend Family Time Together
- Get to know your Kids
- Make Positive deposits
A sense of personal power
- Give choices
- Teach Life-skills
- Help your children make and achieve goals
To be heard and understood
- Acknowledge negative feelings
Boundaries
- Teach Good Values
- Teach Desirable Behavior
- Model Good Behavior
- Give Attention to Good Behavior
- Follow through with enforcing requests or rules
- Carry or move the child if necessary
- Describe what you see
- Use one word
- Express how you feel
- Stop, redirect, reward
- Give advance warning
- Cooling-off period
- When-then statements
- Set up a when-then bedtime routine
- Set up a when-then morning routine
- Problem-solve together
- Consequences
- Either-or
There will probably be other stuff along the way like:
- The problems with punishment
- Getting along with the mother of your children
- Enhancing “the kind of man you are”.
So stay tuned.
Moving Forward
In the next post we are going to look at a common barrier you are going to face in your quest to becoming the best dad you can be: pain that comes with change, and how to overcome it. Then we will dive into the dad-skills.